信任

昨天無意間看到了朋友的一封郵件，內容關于“信任”。
看完了那一篇文章，讓我不經意的想起了我與他之間。
才發現到，在過去的日子里，我的任性，執着，要求，質疑。。。幾乎成了這段感情的拌腳石。

或許是我缺少了對他的一份信任吧！
與他在一起的日子久了，對他的要求多了，自然而然的就想改變他，
忘了原先我喜歡的那個他，一心想把他變成我心目中所理想的人。
我開始了學會比較，不耐煩，抱怨，對他的態度也差了， 我們之間的感情也開始慢慢的淡化了。

幸好，我領悟了，決定改變我自己，也改變了我對他的態度，看法。
我們之間多了溝通，體諒，信任。。。。。
這才使得我倆之間能走到今天。

TRUST :
1) NO POINTING FINGERS

- We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

2) CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

- There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

3) NO OVERPOWERING

- Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

4) RIGHT SPEECH

-There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party. Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed

5) PERSONAL PERCEPTION

- Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

6) BE PATIENT

-Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.